Infertility Is Nothing To Be Ashamed Of: Talking About The I-word
An estimated 6.7 million US women between the ages of 15-44 suffer from infertility. There are two aspects to infertility. Primary infertility is diagnosed when a couple has been unable to conceive after trying for a year. Secondary infertility is diagnosed when a couple has conceived at least once before but has not been successful conceiving again.
The isolating factor of infertility
Infertility can have a major emotional impact on a woman and close family members. Many couples feel isolated in the struggle to start a family. But the subject of infertility does not have to be taboo. Although dealing with infertility is difficult, many people are unaware of how common infertility is; approximately 15% of all couples trying to conceive have issues with infertility.
Banishing the taboo of infertility
The main reason that infertility is such a taboo is most likely because there is a general lack of awareness about infertility and the type of treatments that are available. Men and women who are concerned about a physical problem that is causing barriers to becoming pregnant should make an appointment to see a fertility specialist.
Many people have difficulty discussing any concerns about infertility with an intimate partner. One of the most common fears is of disappointing a partner. A good way of re-contextualizing the conversation is to talk about fertility rather than making the subject negative.
Tips for the fertility talk
Before discussing fertility issues with a partner, there are several ways to prepare:
- Do as much research as possible regarding fertility treatment options.
- Be ready to be completely honest about personal feelings and opinions on fertility and starting a family.
- Understand that during the course of the talk, feelings may change.
- Get additional advice and support.
After partners have discussed infertility together, having each other’s support will make tackling the discussion about infertility with well-meaning family members easier. The sooner partners are honest with family members, the quicker the family can be supportive.
Start a discussion
Infertility is nothing to be embarrassed about. Many people suffer from infertility and there are several treatment options for couples who wish to start a family. Talking to a fertility specialist is the first step.
